Our sexual potential is directly proportional to the perception of the beauty of sex and sexuality. The beauty of sex is in sex, you don’t need to look elsewhere. It is possible to live it and share it with the partner we are in love with, if there is no love the person chosen is the wrong one.
In the latter case, the beauty of sex will appear blurred, not very visible, not very alive and damaged forever. A deeper observation allows us to note that the beauty of the person is also transferred to the sexual life. Everyone develops an inner beauty, sex becomes wonderful if we bring our own beauty into it.
You need to know yourself to make love well,
Intimacy springs from self-knowledge and from sharing with the other. Embarrassment, shame, rigidity, closure cannot allow that flow of oneself, which is essential to meet the other, in the body and soul. It is not a simple state of being, at what age can it be reached?
At what age do people reach their sexual width?
Many texts dealing with human sexuality indicate the sexual climax of an individual between the ages of twenty and thirty. This statement confuses the period of maximum “genital” efficiency with the age of greatest sexual pleasure. The speed with which the body responds has no influence with the totalizing emotion of the orgastic response, where the whole body is involved, where abandonment to oneself coincides with abandonment to love, embodied in the loved one. This shocking and wonderful experience requires a profound degree of intimacy. There is no 20-year-old in the world who can come close to a 60-year-old in good health. If sexual intimacy is an opening of oneself to the other through the union of bodies, people who can allow others to know them have greater potential for deep sexual experiences that have enriched the heart. One effect of this maturity, for example, is letting the partner see us, look us in the eye as we reach the ecstasy of orgasm, for a 20-year-old it could be very shocking. I am not claiming that young people’s feelings are not deeply perceived, but they cannot be emotionally developed as they will be in their fifties or sixties. A mature person naturally has more personal identity behind his eyes, can accept who he is and who he is not, simply because he has lived more. is letting your partner see us, look us in the eye as we reach the ecstasy of orgasm, for a 20-year-old could be very shocking. I am not claiming that young people’s feelings are not deeply perceived, but they cannot be emotionally developed as they will be in their fifties or sixties. A mature person naturally has more personal identity behind his eyes, can accept who he is and who he is not, simply because he has lived more. is letting your partner see us, look us in the eye as we reach the ecstasy of orgasm, for a 20-year-old could be very shocking. I am not claiming that young people’s feelings are not deeply perceived, but they cannot be emotionally developed as they will be in their fifties or sixties. A mature person naturally has more personal identity behind his eyes, can accept who he is and who he is not, simply because he has lived more.He has more Self to bring into intimate contact and the differentiation needed to reveal himself.
However, in order for the maturity of a couple to allow them to rejoice together in loving contact, it is necessary to reveal oneself over time, communicate, declare oneself, become curious about the other. Knowing one’s own erotic fantasies, letting them flow, accepting them for their beauty even if it appears strange, unusual. Accepting, welcoming what emerges from oneself ignores welcoming something precious that speaks of us. It is like a wonderful dream that gladdens the morning after waking up. Embarrassment, distrust, fear, shame are unfortunately negative feelings that we carry within us from childhood. They alter our perception, invert the values and pleasures of existence, annihilate the light of desire, debase the passion in marriage, destroy love. L’ individual in the couple relationship if stripped of his light and his energy, he will lead a gloomy existence or he will seek love elsewhere, outside of marriage. It is necessary to look into each other’s eyes before all is lost, to meet, to talk, to confront each other, even with the help of a therapist if necessary, and then to love each other intimately. It can happen gradually, as tensions ease and the heart can open, freed from its captivity. Underestimating this aspect is like living a non-life, built on the values of the ego (consumerism, narcissism), which repudiates the pleasantness of the self, the authentic self when it expands embraces all the moments and situations of life, restoring the color to the person rosy, the warmth of the skin, the light in the eyes, the grace in the movements, the ease in the posture,
Dr. Cosimo Aruta
Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Family Mediator
Enrolled in the Order of Psychologists of Lombardy with n ° 12147
Psychology, psychotherapy, couple counseling, family mediation studio in Milan
individual psychotherapy – treatment of anxiety, depression, stress of relational and existential distress
couple psychotherapy – unconscious mechanisms can condition joys, quarrels, conflicts, betrayals and family misunderstandings
group psychotherapy – of bioenergetic analysis, the conduction that is also structured through the language of the body
psychological interview – is a meeting between a psychologist and a person who contacts him because of a malaise
anxiety and panic attacks – shortness of breath is conditioned by character defenses for infant survival
depression, low energy – nails the individual, sadness, despondency, discomfort, melancholy, take over him
character and relationship problems – need for intimacy and self-expression, fear that the two elements can be excluded